When thoughts and feelings about more and less enter into the negotiations in any relationship, they are not about how much you are giving or not giving to and getting or not getting from the perceived “other”. These thoughts are reflections of self care.
In order to love another authentically in this physical realm, we must first love ourselves. This is not semantics. This is unconditional acceptance. This is not something you've been taught or shown by example.
We have been raised as if on a desert, and our thirst has never been quenched. We've looked to our elders, our friends, our lovers, our children and even to our God to satisfy our thirst for love. They could not. Oh, they gave what they could share. However they would not deplete their own cup, as that would have been suicide.
Consequently, it has never been enough. You've learned to hoard whatever it is you regard as self-love and you resent any “other” whom you imagine wants to take it away from you. Hence, the imbalance.
We have not learned to quench our own thirst – no one could show us as their cups were also mostly empty. A balanced approach to life, love and any intimate relationship you share occurs when you enter them carrying two things:
- A Full Cup.
- A desire to give from that fullness.
You must learn to love yourself in real time. This, as opposed to any perceived “right”, debt, job or duty. The things we do for each other are not love, they are things/actions. The feeling we embody while doing them is what is experienced as love or lack by both parties. Relationships expand and recede because of these unspoken expressions of emotion. There is no hiding them from each other.
A full cup is the only answer. Allowing, accepting, forgiving and honoring who you are today demands strength and a refusal to observe anything but love. There is no partitioning love. You and the “other” in any relationship you are a part of are in fact One. You've perhaps been filling each others cups back and forth, over and over; leaving you both thirsty and wanting.
The answer falls to you. Any “giving” you do will, in fact and every time, be filling your own cup. “More” love is not an indulgence or a “spoiling” when given; it is simply more. When this happens, you'll only want to to fill your cup again and again. Then you'll understand. It was always about you.
This “love revolution” we are undergoing changes the way we do everything. With fullness, we'll walk in a world without partisan politics or divisive agendas. Comprehension of Oneness answers every dispute. Disagreements can be distilled to their essence when looked at this way – it has always been about economics. “How much more can I get?” “How much more does he have?” When we all have enough, there will only be one measurement – more.
Your part in this is simply stated: Keep your cup full and always give more. Then watch as hearts, bodies, minds and nations overflow with the one thing that has always been free – our very essence.
We are the one's we've been waiting for.
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