Allowing someone to “be”, without having to fix anything or make them feel better, this is love. Love does not mean forcing the other to stop feeling whatever it is they are feeling. This, in fact, makes YOU feel better, not them.
Love allows the other their pain, anguish, joy; any possible emotion is ok, there is no good or bad. What makes YOU feel uncomfortable, you immediately work to stop. It is ok to be uncomfortable; it is part of our life here in this third dimension.
We are all here to experience all of it – each emotion and event brings certain feelings to the surface and we tend to label them as good, bad, uncomfortable, and comfortable. In truth they are merely alternative vibrations – they differ from the status quo and so we notice them. It is our subsequent association, those events we attach TO them that create our opinions. It we attach something we do not feel went well, we will attempt to stop it in its tracks for our loved ones.
This is not done to control them really; it springs from our love for them. It is our misinterpretation of the feeling that causes us to step in and attempt to make everyone feel better.
The feeling springs from within. You will never know precisely what the other is feeling. You can only be sure what you, yourself are feeling.
The ultimate loving action therefore is allowing, witnessing, and accepting. It matters not what your loved one is feeling or expressing, you will stand there and love them anyway. Their truth is theirs. You don’t have to like it or agree yet it is not about you. It is about them.
Love them enough to allow them their anger and pain; they do not need correcting. They are in the place they are at this moment because of their current focus. It is not your job to re-adjust their lenses. You are here to love them. You do.
Listening without comment can be the supreme act of love. Love them as they stand, right now, no exceptions, no corrections.