“Please help me to understand what "love" is.
When I asked this question to the universe, the answer I got back was, "you are".
Is love a state of being? An emotion? A feeling? A quantum field of energy?”
Such a beautiful question, thank you.
Love can be described in all of the phrases you've used, but none of them is a definition of love. It is sort of like saying – “What are you?” You may answer, I am a woman, a sister, a teacher, an African-American, a Buddhist, a Democrat, a mother, a vegetarian, a runner, a dancer, an artist, and a human being. These are adjectives, but not definitions. You look like these things, it may be true. But what you are is so much more. Your essence is not quantifiable.
Love is like that. There is no such thing as more love or less love. Love is. I am not an expert on “a quantum field of energy” but I suspect it can be measured and contained. Maybe not, as Quantum Physics is only recently being considered legitimate and yet it seems to introduce more questions than it answers. This is good news, for in the questions we discover the unlimited nature of creation, as well love.
Love is immense power. It is the force of creation itself. When you step back far enough, it will be all that you see; a single answer to every question. Singularity. Oneness. Love is life itself and as such, a challenge to encapsulate with words. The adjectives you used within your question are attempts, yet each is too limiting; love is everything.
An answer starts to sound further and further from daily life, yet absolute truth is like that. If you consider the consciousness shift we are undertaking, it may help to put this answer in perspective. We are moving from polarity to unity; separation to oneness. A definition of love from the viewpoint of polarity will quantify it. Phrases like “I love you more than anyone else.” “You are the only one for me.” “I love my family/country/religion/nationality best.” “You complete me.”, all sound terribly romantic and emotional yet they are separatist and not sustainable. For every one of these declarations demand a denial of love; love of any other. We are not built for that, which explains the drama of the human condition.
Ultimately, we cannot deny what it is we are. If you have a cat, for example, you will not ever be able to teach it to sing like a bird, fetch like a dog, or stay off the kitchen table when you aren't looking. It is a cat. After some time, you will get that and not expect it to be anything but what it is.
Being human, you will not ever be able to stop loving. Everything. Period. That love may look like admiration, friendship, passion, assistance, fondness, caring, nurturing, interest, fascination, collaboration or a warm smile – yet it is an expression of your love all the same. Love cannot be contained within boundaries of any sort.
Boundaries, names and our desire to define things are all part of the human condition. They help us make sense of a world that is entirely self determined. Since we cannot deal with that as a daily occurrence, we say “Love looks like this”, “Life is this”, etc. The trouble shows up when something outside of the usual definition appears. Now what?
Now we reach for truth and a definition that encompasses everything love does and is. Truth can be found when considering love as an intelligent force running through all of creation. That may sound like your definition of “god” or “source” or “eternal essence”, and maybe those are other words for love. Love is not good or bad, alive or dead, human or animal, happy or sad – these are human parameters used to explain the way creation shows up here.
The reason your question is perfect for us right now is because it sort of summarizes our shift. As we gradually “get” oneness, we will get love. Borders and contracts and definitions that attempt to contain the force of creation itself have never worked. The internet is a tool we created to demonstrate in a physical 3D way, our connection and the unlimited reach of love and of us. Accept that we are one, and that yes, we are love, and you allow for a constant expression of love in every moment. Love is that big. It is beyond description, as are you.
I don't know if this helps or adds to the confusion, but I will be happy to discuss this further. It is my favorite subject! Enter the drawing this week for a group Skype session with myself and "Roy", this would be a great topic!
“ So, how do I get out of my own way AND then stay out of the way????”
In 17 words you have summarized the angst of humanity. Thank you!
Once we wake up, well, we first of all notice that there is an “I” (ego) that is in the way. Next, we begin to see that he or she is relentless and not very helpful.
Sort of like a 3 year old that never grows up, or a puppy. Have you ever had a puppy that grew up? Actually, that answer would have to be “no” because when you sign up for raising a dog, you must understand right off the bat that the dog may advance in years, but basically will always hold the heart and exuberance of a puppy. You can “domesticate” an animal, but you can't alter its core. It is like that with our ego self. Our ego self is only interested in maintaining the status-quo. This equilibrium was set when you were very young, and you didn't know any better.
Lets try, in 17 ways, to “get out of our own way”, and stay there.
It is not easy, but it is oh so worth it.
“Do you have any ideas on how to manage my self talk? I'm usually thinking it before I realize I'm doing it! How do I get it to shut up!
Peace in my head would be greatly appreciated!”
Hi and thanks for this really pertinent question. We all have voices in our head, that's one of the Hallmarks of being human. We are constantly talking to ourselves, figuring out what is going on around us. We are associative in our learning, and we are learning and creating all the time.
Each event or conversation or person or thing we witness, kicks off a chain reaction in our brains... we are attempting to “attach” it to something we know, and in that way, identify it, make it part of our “reality”. This is part of our process of identification.
The problem is, these early, associative memories, were formed when we were infants. Not very helpful now that you are an adult, and you know all about the boogey man, Santa Claus and “reality”. Reality is whatever you believe that it is. Your grown up brain is competing with a 3 year old's version; not real helpful.
Most of what is going on is fear and judgment. These ideas were formulated when you were figuring out the world. They are not truth, any more than the Tooth Fairy. Yet, while you are thinking them, they color your world in vivid shades.
So... how to get rid of them? There is good news and not so great news. First, the not so great news.
You can't. Not really. They are part of you; they formed the you sitting there right now and will not just disappear. The specific words can change, yes. But the voice in your head is your ticket to admission here. It is the voice of your ego.
The good news is, grown up you can put the words that are damaging in perspective. You can relegate them to a part of you that you aren't “doing” anymore. They were useful when you didn't know any better, not so much now.
The trick to all this is to notice them, before they have screwed up your moment. This will take practice and repetition and awareness of physical sensation.
Each of these voices is accompanied by a feeling. The feeling comes first, then the picture in your head and the words to explain what is happening. Catch it at the first sensation/feeling, and you can stop it cold.
So... here is a technique I've used with great success. When the feeling shows up, as soon as I am aware of it, I stop and visualize myself in the deep end of this pool of “not good”. I am usually a sorry state, and sitting someplace, sort of despondent. Nothing positive is being created at the time. Then, I visualize the powerful version of me, looking rather fantastic. She walks over to the despondent me and reaches down to hold her.
She looks her in the eyes and says: “I love you. We aren't doing this anymore.” Then, she hugs her until I am only aware of the powerful me. Despondent me has been absorbed.
The sensation you are looking to catch is usually one of heat, familiarity, anxiousness, worry, self judgment, self doubt, discomfort, disgust, self hate. It is never true that you are less than perfect. ANY thought that puts you in that category, is worth looking at, absorbing and moving through.
This “self talk” you'd like to shut up is merely a misinformed ego self, chattering about the world he or she is attempting to master. It is experimental. It no longer fits and can be silenced with acceptance, not anger. Each extreme negative part of your personality has a complimentary part that is equally extreme and powerfully effective. Look for that. It's there.
Patience with yourself is key. This will happen with love and persistence. Decide that feeling good is your only priority, and those voices will start to sing your praises, rather than insult you. Let them, encourage them and watch what happens!
“I really liked the list of ways to know if your sovereign.
Can you tell us how to know if we are awake?
I do better with organizing my thoughts like that.
Love your work!”
Being awake and being conscious are the same thing, in my opinion. Once you wake up/become conscious, you'll never really be able to go back to sleep.
There is a moment in your journey when you'll realize the following:
I hope this helps. I wish you much love,
“I do better with lists. Can you tell me the top 5 things that tell me if I'm loving myself with agape?
I'm a little fuzzy on what agape means for me.”
Well let's see... we are different in our personal expression of love so this might not be possible in the context of this page. There are books written explaining how each of us understands love. For some it is in the things we give and get, for others the words, still others the doing, etc...
Agape is unconditional love. It would be more beneficial perhaps to discuss what things (5 or more) you are doing that indicate you are NOT unconditionally loving yourself. We can start there.
We have been taught it is honorable, even saintly, to place all others before yourself. I tell you this is not true. The saints and greatest amongst us did not put everyone else before themselves, they placed themselves right where they belong, first. Then, with self confidence and authenticity, they moved out into the world with enough love and fortitude to give their gifts freely wherever they were called to do so. Their inner power was and is Agape.
Unconditional Self Love, or Agape, looks like that. It is quiet strength. It is pure light. It is where we all began and where we still are, if only we would remember.
I hope this answers your question.
“I'm fascinated by the off world connection you seem to have. Can you tell me what you know about the off worlders? You know, the names (who you've talked too) your connection, have you had a spacecraft ride yet?”
Hello! What I know about the off worlders is pretty much what you have read on the website. If you have followed the story, it's been going on for 3 years now.
There were things that occurred “off line” before that conversation as well. They convinced me that we are not alone and that there are non human folks in our midst that look just like us. Their origin is different. Deciding to be aware of a different “signature” of being is all it takes to notice them when they show up. Trust that internal “spidey sense” you have and keep a record of contacts, even when you aren't 100% sure. You may be surprised at how quickly your journal gets filled!
I am not at liberty to share names here and no, no spacecraft ride as of today. There is always tomorrow!
“I blog about love and post you frequently. I AM in limbo nowadays. I feel ready to blossom and I need patience. I AM intuitive, but feel nothing NOW as I wait during this transition. “
Hi there. I wonder right off when you say you are an intuitive, but “you feel nothing NOW”. I suspect that this is misinterpretation. Your gift of intuition is not something you turn on and off, it is something that you ARE.
Perhaps what you are calling “nothing” is something you've never seen/felt before, and therefore label it “nothing”. There is no such thing as a void in creation, there is always something there. As associative beings, we look around for how to label and think about virtually everything that is going on.
This time we are in, this time of change and alteration and all things new, has no past you can associate with. This creates a feeling of “something missing”, which could be the feeling of “limbo” you describe in your question. We are in the process of creating different things unknown to us yet. Once we do, we'll understand what to call them and how to recognize them.
It is indeed an exciting time, yet a confusing one. There is nothing to “ground” to, or base our every day on. It is not so much patience you are in need of, but practice in the art of allowing. It is not something we've done very much of. As the bud feels “ready to blossom”, yet does not know which day it will bloom, there you are. You paint such a vivid picture with your words, there is no doubt that you are right there, ready to emerge!
Remain open and ready for all comers. The “next thing” is right there, unrecognized today but valid just the same. Your creative ability is not dormant, it is more vibrant than ever. It is your thought about it that has it in a seeming “holding pattern” of nothing. You create with every thought and word and action and emotion. Describe your current mood differently and then look for evidence. You will surprise yourself as you see near instant manifestation take place in your days!
Each moment has potential and is in fact fulfilled. Remaining in a pattern/habit of boredom or “waiting” creates only more of the same. Decide on active intention with every moment. As you grasp what is in front of you and guide it toward the next new thing in your life, you will feel the power of your intent! Allow your dreams and beliefs to manifest. They have no choice but to do so.
Believe in what is as yet unseen. It exists as surely as you do. There is no magic word or mantra, you will have to uncover the words and expectations that work for you. It sounds like you have a jump start on positive thinking; you already blog about love! All of your answers are found in your heart. Just allow yourself to feel them.
Question : “Do you think your off world friends will be visiting soon?”
Well, it depends on what you mean by “soon”. Yes, I expect a visit. It's happened before. Time is relative... We may think we've been waiting forever while for another civilization, it has been only moments. I trust that a visit will happen at the perfect “now” for all of us. ;)
Question : “For the last 3-4 years I've encountered what to all including myself is lack, yet within it I know I have all I need. We haven't lost our home, pets are fed, gas tank gets filled, refrigerator too, somewhere there's still that voice that tells me I must "Do" something to change the situation and every time I do or attempt to do, in order to get, it falls apart...
I have been personally challenged by an obsession for a man that could be my son! Sometimes I get entangled in wondering about possibilities but lately I've decided he's purpose is to distract me from my goal... Am I kidding myself??”
Wow, lots of questions here...
Lack is defined as: “the fact or condition of not having enough; shortage; deficiency – the fact or condition of not having any; complete absence.”
In your own words “I know I have all I need”. So either the definition of lack is not understood by you and “all”, or you are not being truthful. I suspect it is a misuse of the word, and perhaps what is perceived as “lack” is in fact an amount that does not meet your expectations.
You want more than enough. You are seeking comfort. What you have now isn't what you used to have or isn't what you'd hoped you would be enjoying at this point in your life. Here's the thing. As we move forward towards autonomy and sovereignty and responsibility and agape, it challenges us on every level. How we define the challenge will define how we feel. WE decided to change things and to do so, well, means change. This is change we have to own.
If you listened to a voice or feeling that told you you had to “do” something about getting rained on, you'd either open an umbrella or stand under an awning. You wouldn't stay there, dripping wet, saying “every time I DO something to get dry, it falls apart”. No, you'd get yourself protected or get wet. Not once did you think the responsibility for your dryness was anyone’s but yours, so you took care of it.
If you truly believed the responsibility for “doing something to change the situation (of lack)” was yours, then you would do it. Case closed. So, again, either you don't believe you are suffering any sort of lack or you don't believe it's your responsibility. Either way, the answer is to change your mind and look at your beliefs with wide open eyes. Be content out loud if you really are, or be clear on whose job it is to change it. Either way, act on your true inner beliefs and you will have a great deal more success.
As far as your young man is concerned, there is never “kidding”, as all imaginings are occurring, if not in this time-line, then in some parallel reality. All possibilities exist. Period. It is up to you whether or not you choose to experience them in this specific time-line, the one where you are also struggling with definitions of lack.
Again, how do you define yourself? Be clear, as your heart only speaks the truth. If there is any connection felt between you, age will not matter; you'll both sense it. Understand that you cannot know what is going on in his head, but you cannot imagine love. It exists and is easily recognizable. It sometimes shows up as a physical “spark”, sometimes as a warm knowing... but we all know how it feels. There is no wrong sort of love. There is only love. It is distracting yes, I guess, but really, it is the whole point. Everything else is the distraction.
He may or may not pursue the feelings in this scenario; yet that does not mean you are “kidding yourself”. It means that he chose something else. That says nothing about your desirability or obsession. It is merely a choice. Somewhere else he chose differently, and so did you. That is how it works. If that is his choice, then let it go. He cannot take anything from you, he is merely a reflection of what you are allowing yourself to feel.
In thinking about both questions, I'd like to offer this. Trust yourself. Love yourself. If things are falling apart or not working out, it is because all of your heart and enthusiasm was not present while you participated. Be clear and be honest and be forgiving and keep moving. Leave all judgment out of it. Forgive yourself and seek always your highest and best. As you approach any new day, do so in the direction of your heart. It knows. You are so much more than your current imaginings are allowing you to see. Thank you for asking.
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