Love quest : Day 4 - Afraid?
This journey is half over.
We are “just as far in as we’ll ever be out” (Anna Nalick – Breathe)
So, despite all opposing forces, if you are still reading this, there’s been at least a nod towards self love. That’s fantastic and life altering. Let’s keep going.
What stops you? For each of us, regardless of what it looks like or sounds like, it’ll boil down to FEAR. Look closely and you’ll see. A fearless being stops only when the goal has been reached.
There are so many reasons to be afraid. But loving yourself? That’s easy. It isn’t happening because of three letters. N O and T. If you are not absolutely enthralled with your fingers, toes, belly button and whole self – as you once were – then the only thing stopping you is in your head. As an infant you’d spend hours and days staring at your parts and squealing with delight when you discovered what they could do.
While visiting my niece and her 3 very little daughters, a song broke out during lunch. One of them had just used the potty for the first time. It was playful, joyous and exuberant. Dad got a phone call at work, and he took it, interrupting a meeting. This was big news. It was thrilling.
Your life can be thrilling too. You don’t need anyone else to tell you how amazing you are. Unless you know yourself, you won’t believe them anyway.
So what are you afraid of? Which N O T is stopping you? NOT deserving? NOT good enough? NOT strong enough? NOT smart enough? NOT beautiful enough? NOT lucky enough? NOT funny enough? NOT rich enough? NOT caring enough? NOT happy enough? These things are in your head.
It is not your head that we are aiming for here – it is your heart. It is there where love is found, and it turns out that right now it’s beating. You are alive and you have everything you need to love yourself. “N O and T” be damned.
You are here now to love. You’ve had the odds stacked against you and you haven’t been told the truth. Your fears are based on circumstances that seem beyond your control. What you weren’t told is that you hold the power to change how all of it feels. By letting go. With trust.
It doesn’t matter what you are afraid of – it matters that you move right on past it. Not because of some Hallmark holiday, but because your life depends on it. This is the only life you are living. Right now. This is it. There may very well be assorted other dimensions and parts of you – yet right here and now this version could sure use a hand. The love you are aching for is within.
That means it is within reach. You don’t have to look for it. You have to allow it to emerge. A little encouragement will yield surprising results.
You see, we are all eager for an opening, a chance to feel better, and a moment of “YES!” I heard the results of a survey today. It was about “what women want most for Valentines Day”. They were unexpected. What is wanted most, at least according to this survey, is “a kiss goodbye, acknowledgement, and attention”. Once you come out of that fearful, NOT good enough cloud, you’ll see. We all want love. The people in your life will benefit without even knowing the reason was Agape. All you did was love yourself.
The world changes one heart at a time. Oneness emerges from Agape.
Release your fears and love yourself anyway. I don’t know if there will be body enhancing technology or unlimited abundance available anytime soon, but I do know that right now you have the capacity to do this. The worst has already happened, so no worries there. It’s time to move in another direction. This one is where you leap out of bed in the morning ready for another chance to love.
Accept yourself. Allow yourself. Be yourself.
You are the one you’ve been waiting for.
See you tomorrow.
Anna Nalick - Breathe