For three years there’s been Quests for Agape. Searching, losing and finding deeper and still deeper levels of what we call love. Still now, surrounded in answers, the question remains. How do I love? How do I wake up, go to bed, day after day love?
I can talk about what it means to love. It does not mean the things you imagine. It does not mean always getting your way or having someone cooperate and do things for you; even do things with you.
It means honor the ground they walk on. Be a positive force for them. It means gently absorb them as if they were your final breath. Not gasping and clawing for them but breathe them in quietly for the gift that they are.
Love does not hurt and does not have an opinion. Do you know a relationship that does not include an opinion? If you do not, it is not because you do not love, you do. The thing you do not do is unconditionally love. The one you do not unconditionally love is you.
Regardless of question asked or reason given, when you speak about loving another it is always an illusion. For “other” does not exist, all is One. If you understood that, all questions would cease.
“Other” is a reflection. Relationships are played out versions of self love. For you are creator gods. You imagine there is a way for some “other” to hurt you. Your imaginings cause you real pain. You came here to help each other. To teach each other. About love.
All love is self love. All questions are questions about you. It is always you. So turn it around. Everyone is right. You will have to see with new eyes.
What do you want? What do you intend? It is your intentions that create your life. Sometimes, you will have to let go to get what you want. You do not understand love and still imagine it requires some “other’s” response to you before it can be felt. While it is true that the physical expression of love requires a partner – it is untrue that love does.
To love is to give to the world all that you are. Holding back or having an opinion is not included in the expression of love – but only evidence of fear.
You can hold in your heart a desire for love, for its true expression. You can let go of judgment, expectation and opinion for none of that is love. You are lonely not because the “other” doesn’t give you want you want, but because you don’t.
You do not need the “other” to be a certain way in order for you to be happy. The need is self-imposed. Allow yourself to be happy. Allow yourself to be loved.
Make no mistake. You are working out self love in every relationship. There is something honest about being who you are everywhere you go. It is up to you.
You have truth. The answer you will give yourself.
You are the One you’ve been waiting for.