love Quest week #5 letting go
Welcome back! We’ve made it to our 5th week! Congratulations! We’ve visited what you lost (self-love), how you misplaced it (fear), where it is most likely found (beneath posturing), and what to do once you discover its hiding place (stand your ground & look around). Today we’ll explore what happens when you stop playing hide and seek.
The reason for posturing is control. The loss of control increases the level of tension you feel physically and tightens your grip. Now that grip is needed if you’re hanging on to a ladder or a cliff, but not so much every day. You can let go a bit.
This self you’ve hidden exists, as does your love for him or her; your love for you. It is real. It is more real than the posturing, the thoughts and the costume you’ve hidden it behind. Those things are based on fear. As we’ve said before, fear is the reason you lost access to these things in the first place.
Today I’d like to keep it short. Because letting go is more easily done than discussed. What you will be letting go of is different for you than it is for me. However, the reason to hold on is universal. It is protection of some sort; protection of self. We all protect ourselves when we’re afraid.
If you persist in protecting/hiding yourself, there is no chance you’ll be seen and subsequently loved for who you are. It’s terrifyingly simple.
Remember, the “terrifying” part here was intentionally installed into your psyche (see earlier weeks of this Quest). It is not truth. The truth is that to allow and then to love yourself is a pure and radical act. It yields only joy.
We are on a Quest for Love. Let me share how mine is going. In the interest of authenticity, each week I dive into these words & methods. Whether or not I succeed, I continue on the next week and the next step. I do so in order to fully immerse myself in the Quest.
This week is letting go of pretense, so I’ve “come out” to two very important people in my life. Not in an “out of the closet” way, but in a “here I am with all of these faults” way.
This occurred during ordinary conversations. I made a decision to stop hiding and deliberately let myself be seen. I felt exposed, yet I persisted. There was no retreating into familiar hiding places. What happened was astounding and validating and lovely.
I can tell you that not only was there complete acceptance, but there was closeness in a way that never before existed. That soul-to-soul sort of connection occurred, and it left only bliss in its wake. This is the prize and the result of letting go – connection. It is extraordinary. If it were “ordinary”, there would be no reason for a Love Quest at all! It is worth repeating.
Connection is why we came. There is a rush of joy when you reach and see and touch another soul! This is not sexual. Physical contact is not necessary. It is beyond description. It is bliss. Once you feel it, you’ll want it again and again. It is way cooler than that hiding place of pretense is.
There is a feeling of contentment that arises when you know, without exception, that you are accepted. It is like being told you are allowed. Allowed to be, allowed to become, allowed to invent, allowed to dream, allowed to create, allowed to make mistakes, allowed to love. Self-love grants you permission.
And the place that you’ll find that permission is in the eyes and the hearts of everyone you encounter. We are mirrors for you. When you look with open eyes of love and acceptance, you’ll see love and acceptance mirrored right back at you. It’s all a reflection. It’s all you.
So, this week let go. Let go of whatever it is that you are holding onto; whatever is preventing self-love. Risk being exposed. Unless of course, it’s a literal cliff. Yet I suspect your cliff is as imaginary as mine, and that you’ll land softly and profoundly in a field of Oneness.
Once you do, you’ll wonder what took you so long!
See you next week, fellow Questers! It is an honor.
With so much love,
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(Y)Our Island Paradise of Us
9/23/2022 09:34:17 am
Thank you. Beautifully put. This reaches deep within.
Finding Eden Within
9/23/2022 09:39:38 am
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