Feeling separate – anger, winning, victimization – all (are) ego constructs to isolate us and the trick is to know they are ego created and to run them for as long as you desire, release them, and move on.
Moving on is most easily accomplished through love.
Love is recognized when there is no discomfort, no hesitation about the correctness of what has occurred. It will feel right all the way through to your toes.
You will know when you do it. You have no experience, yet, at running your ego. It is that space, that love, that unconditional love that will guide you.